Over the past year, I’ve worked closely with men and have seen firsthand how complex it can be to navigate mental health support. There’s often a stereotype that men don’t talk about their feelings or seek help for their mental health—but the truth is much more nuanced.
What the core of my own research has shown and what I’ve learned is that it’s not masculinity itself that holds men back. Instead, it’s the belief that mental health services aren’t designed for them, along with additional barriers like stigma, inaccessible hours, or the idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Many men feel that therapy might not understand or support their needs, and that’s something we need to change.
Men Are Seeking Help—And It’s Time We Met Them Where They Are
Contrary to popular belief, men are willing to open up. They just need to feel like they’re being heard, understood, and respected in the process. It’s not about “fixing” masculinity but about making mental health services feel like a space where men can be themselves without judgement.
Feeling hesitant about therapy? It’s normal. Many men feel like therapy might not fit with their sense of self or that they’re supposed to “tough it out.” But asking for help is actually a sign of strength.
Not sure therapy is for you? You’re not alone. Often, men feel like therapy wasn’t built with them in mind. But a growing number of services are specifically designed to support men in a way that speaks to their experiences, values, and identities.
Breaking Down the Barriers
So, what’s holding you back from seeking support? Here are some common concerns I’ve heard from men:
“I’ll be judged for opening up.” Therapy isn’t about judgement—it’s about creating a space where you can talk through things at your own pace.
“It won’t help me.” Therapy is a partnership. It’s about finding what works for you, whether that’s practical solutions, a listening ear, or just a chance to figure things out.
“Real men don’t need therapy.” Seeking support is one of the strongest things you can do for yourself and the people around you. It’s about taking responsibility for your own well-being and growth.
Moving Forward
If you’ve ever felt unsure about therapy or wondered if it’s the right fit for you, know that you’re not alone. Mental health services are evolving, and many of us are working hard to make sure they meet the needs of men, just like you. Therapy doesn’t have to be a space where you leave your masculinity at the door - all parts of you are welcome here. Therapy here can be a space that respects and affirms who you are.
If you’re ready to explore what therapy can do for you, or even just curious, I’m here to help.
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